About me
Why I Chose This Path
And why I want to share it with you:
We live in a time of transition. Old roles are fading away, and the new ones are still unclear.
And many men feel… simply alone in the middle of it.
That’s exactly how it was for me.
I had questions – a lot of them.
But in my family, among my friends… no one could really help me.
Luckily, back then there were forums and books that gave me my first answers.
But honestly? It was hard. Really hard.
And I often wished I had a mentor – someone who would take me by the hand and say:
“I understand you. I was exactly where you are right now. And I’ll help you get out of it.”
Today, I am that mentor.
Not because I’m perfect.
But because I walked this path myself – step by step, setback by setback.
And because I want to give you what I wished for so badly back then:
A real person to turn to. A coach who doesn’t just talk – but truly understands and takes action.
In our society, everyone talks about women’s rights…
But who is actually talking about masculinity?
Who talks about your insecurities? Your pressure? Your questions? Who shows you how to actually succeed with women?
Instead, even healthy masculinity is often demonized.
And all that’s left for you is to just function.
Let me tell you something from the bottom of my heart:
I’m here for you.
And one more thing:
Everything you see from me is 100% real and field-tested.
My Story – and Why I Can Help You
Some men start out with charisma.
I started out with a stutter.
When I was around eleven years old, it suddenly began. Words got stuck, sentences stumbled. For a boy who simply wanted to belong, that was a pretty heavy blow. I still remember the thought that planted itself in my mind back then:
“If you can’t even speak normally, you’ll never get a good job – and certainly never a beautiful girlfriend.”
But I was never the type of person who simply accepts a “Well, I guess that’s just how it is.”
So I started reading – everything I could get my hands on: psychology, language, the human brain. I meditated, practiced autogenic training, and analyzed myself.
Not just for a few weeks. But for years.
And at some point, it was simply gone – the stutter.
What remained was something far more valuable:
The deep belief that change is possible.
If you are willing to work on yourself.
That belief never left me again.
And at the age of fifteen, it led me into a completely new world: Pickup.
I still remember how, around that age, I became intensely interested in women. I had absolutely no idea how to flirt, how to talk to women – let alone how to seduce them.
But I was curious. So I started searching for answers.
Eventually I stumbled upon something called the “Pickup Forum.”
At the time, I had no idea what that even was. But what I found there felt almost magical: hundreds of men asking the same questions I had – and searching for answers.
I read through the nights, devouring books like “The Game” or “The Mystery Method” in a single day.
I was electrified.
Especially by one question:
How is it possible that some men seem endlessly successful with women — while others have no success at all?
Even back then, I realized something: there were two camps in the pickup community.
Some wanted to solve everything technically – with routines, tricks, and rigid methods.
Others focused on authenticity, personal growth, and natural charisma.
I felt it immediately:
The second path was mine.
And that became my foundation.
Screenshot of my second forum profile “Chris Ka” — registered since 2014 with 116 posts.
“At 15, I was already spending hours reading in the pickup forum. I absorbed everything – strategies, mindsets, the first success stories.”
Screenshot of a post where I was looking for a wingman when I was 19
“I wanted real-world experience. And I wanted to grow. So I publicly searched for a wingman. Max replied — today he’s one of my best friends.”
From Reader to Practitioner
Theory was my starting point.
But I quickly realized: knowledge alone won’t get you anywhere.
I wanted to know what it actually feels like to walk up to a woman. I wanted to know what really works — not in forums, but in real life.
So I went out. Day after day, night after night.
I tried everything I had read. I made mistakes. I learned. And I got better.
But I also realized something:
About 90% of what you find online about dating is nonsense.
Or worse — it actually leads you in the wrong direction.
Back then, there was hardly any reliable literature on the subject. That was a curse, because I had to figure out many things on my own.
But it was also a blessing — because it allowed me to gain an incredible depth of real-world experience.
Looking back, it’s a mix of embarrassing and funny: I created several fake profiles, pretended to be a woman, and analyzed what men would write. I tested countless terrible pickup lines and even did something called “desensitization training” to overcome social anxiety…
I wasn’t just out there — I was right in the middle of it. Up close. Real.
I didn’t just learn how to approach women —
I learned how they think, how they feel, and how they open up.
And I didn’t just collect numbers. I loved. I had relationships. Because from the very beginning, pickup meant not just “more” — but also better.
17 years old
“Somewhere between excitement and a sense of adventure — the first nights in the bar.”
19 years old.
“Getting ready for night game with my wingman.”
Do you know that feeling when, deep inside, you just know there’s something you have to do? That you were born for something — that you have a mission?
Because I do.
My Path: From Passion to Profession
For many years, I worked as a trained police officer —
but my true passion remained the same: psychology and the art of attraction.
What many people don’t know:
Pickup originally emerged from NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). I still remember reading about it in the forum back then. And that’s when I decided to truly understand its roots.
I wrote my bachelor’s thesis on NLP, completed three years of intensive training with some of the best NLP trainers in Germany — and today I am a certified NLP trainer (INLPTA, DVNLP).
What I do today is a fusion of everything:
deep NLP work + decades of pickup experience + real, empathic practice.
I have approached thousands of women and been on hundreds of dates.
I have made countless mistakes — and through them, learned what truly works.
Today, I guide my clients live — side by side.
I analyze body language, presence, voice…
I help you see yourself clearly — and truly understand the woman standing in front of you.
Why You’ll Learn Things With Me That Others Simply Can’t Teach
In the world of dating, there is one crucial difference for men:
About 90% of men only have moderate success with women.
Around 10% are significantly more successful — and less than 1% operate on a true elite level. Men who actually have real choice.
But this is where the real problem begins:
Very few of those successful men can actually explain why they are successful.
They are what we call “naturals.” They do many things right — but unconsciously.
As a coach, that doesn’t help you much. Because if someone doesn’t understand what he’s doing, he can’t truly teach it.
What you need is someone who has walked the path consciously.
Someone who wasn’t “naturally” successful, but built that success step by step.
Someone who today not only operates on the highest level — but can also show you exactly how to get there.
And that’s exactly who I am.
I started when I was 15 years old — extremely early.
Back then, my “market value” as a teenager in the dating world was practically zero.
I got rejected countless times and often wondered if I would ever figure it out.
So I know exactly what it feels like to stand on the other side.
And if you are still young today, maybe insecure or simply at the very beginning of your journey:
Then I am exactly the right coach for you.
Because I’ve been where you are right now.
And I also know how you can move forward from there.
But even if you already have some success with women,
if you’ve gained experience —
but feel that there is still much more possible:
then you’ll find what has been missing until now: structure, depth, and real progress.
I won’t just show you how to get occasional dates.
I’ll show you how to create real choice.
How to choose from countless women, refine your presence, understand your impact,
and operate on a level that most men never reach.
Whether you’re a beginner or more advanced:
What you learn from me will stay with you for life.
And it will take you further than any pickup line or YouTube video ever could.
