This is how you become a seduction artist! The journey begins

Let me invite you to take a look at a little made-up calculation:

We all know this feeling – you go out with your friends once and suddenly, you’re 50€ lighter. An average evening on the weekend could look like this:

You meet up with some friends for pre-evening drinks ⇒ about 10 €.
You take the train to the next club and then back again later ⇒ 15 €.
You have to pay to get into the club ⇒ 10 €.
In the club, you drink, for example, two more beers and then an energy drink ⇒ 15 €.
That makes the evening cost about 50€. Of course, you can pay a lot more, but you can pay less, too. This is just an average amount.

To get exceptional skills in talking to women, you need a lot of experience. Therefore, it is essential to get out a lot, so you can improve your wealth of experience and thereby your abilities.

If we say that you have running costs of 50€ every Friday and Saturday, then that’s 400€ a month. After a while, the aspiring seduction artist may manage to score, on average, two dates a week. For each date, we’ll calculate 30€ per date, depending on what you do. That would already give us monthly costs of 640€. Additionally, you will need to pay for things like clothes, condoms, travel… and of course all your regular, necessary things you need to live…

 

Of course, this little calculation isn’t supposed to be representative, because you could go to a free club, for example, then buy nothing to drink there and (if you’re a student for example), take the train for free. But then, there might be other costs, like for example fees for online dating websites or maybe you want to move to a bigger city…

You see, being a seduction artist isn’t cheap. Especially if you want to make a living out of it. But this shouldn’t be an excuse, because you can start with very little money and still be successful.

Relation to me

When I talk to other coaches, I often get told that when you have a dream, you shouldn’t wait much longer, but start living your dream immediately. If it’s the right thing for you, then success will be right around the corner – and so will the money.

If I listened to these people, I’d have to quit my job right this moment.

But I’m not like that. I look at things too prosaically to do that:

Right now, I’m working as a police inspector and because I live very parsimoniously, I can save about 1000€ per month. I feel like this is essential, however, as I will quit at the start of 2023, so I can work full-time as a seduction artist and personality coach. So, all my current income will break off and all I will be left with are huge monthly costs.

My goal is to save up 30,000€, so I can finance my world travels focussing on seducing women, and to have some starting capital until I can generate income with e.g. this blog, my social media platforms or through courses.

My goal to work as a seduction artist is just too important to me to jump into it headlong. Only with a good plan will I be able to maximise the chance of fulfilling my dream.

Appearance is important, but not as important as many people think. As a seduction artist, it’s not about escaping into a fantasy world, asking questions like “What if…?”

We will work with what we have. We will try and get the most out of it. Answering the question what the most of it might look like and a precise scientific analysis on what good looks are in the first place will be covered in another blog entry.

Marthin Luther said:

Or, to stay with the previously mentioned philosophers:

To become a good seduction artist, you need a certain personality:

Curiosity/Inquisitiveness:

You should be curious and inquisitive, because you only really get good by broadening your horizon more and more and by learning new skills. Furthermore, it is essential that you can go with the times and learn to adapt to new dating methods and ways of acquiring partners. For example, you cannot reach your full potential if you don’t use Tinder nowadays, and instead only write letters.

Thirst for Adventure:

You need a thirst for adventure, because you’re constantly throwing yourself into unforeseeable events. An example to clarify – you talk to three girls sitting at the bar, drinking a cocktail. At that moment, you have no idea how they are going to react. Anything can happen! 😀

Courage:

You need courage, because you always have to overcome the fear of rejection inside you. You decide to talk to the most beautiful woman in the bar. And there she is, right in front of you, and you can feel that tingling in your stomach, the excitement, and also that fear of failing…

Linguistic Abilities:

You need to become a good talker, because a huge part of seduction happens through language. We express ourselves with it – our personality – and create new realities and emotions in the heads of our counterparts. All great seducers were masters of language.

Discipline:

You must be disciplined, because it’s so easy to make mistakes. It is easy to spend a lot more money than intended when you’re drunk or tipsy and surrounded by beautiful women, to succumb to the use of drugs or, instead of trying to seduce someone, to just go to the next brothel or maybe even to pack it in completely because a girl just turned you down.

Empathy:

You need empathy, because you have to be able to see things from other people’s perspectives. You must be sensitive enough to perceive emotional shifts in her and the other people around you. To a certain degree, this is something you can learn, by coming more into contact with other people and forcing yourself to improve this ability. There are, however, some people who just do not have empathy. These people will have more problems becoming a seduction artist and will never be good at it, as empathy is one of the pillars of a good seducer.

Self-reflection:

You also need the ability to self-reflect. You must be able to see yourself from a bird’s eye perspective, as if you were a ghost hovering above yourself, judging and assessing yourself completely rationally and emotionless. This is essential to be able to constantly improve upon yourself. Thankfully, this ability is mostly something you can learn and is, should you not be able to do this yet, something you can for example learn in an NLP course.

 

Relation to me:

I believe that I already have many of these personality traits or otherwise have a good base for them so that I am able to improve them. My biggest fear was the necessary discipline. Although I am quite disciplined in everyday life, I know how quickly one can lose one’s head and do something incredibly stupid, or that one can lose one’s way and get distracted by other, less important things.

What do you think about the personality traits I listed? Are you missing something essential? Leave a comment, I’d be happy to see a discussion.

You need quite a bit of knowledge and education to become a good seduction artist and even more knowledge and education to be able to make money off it. In the following, I will show you a few of these things:

Change processes/resource building:

In self-help books or in forums I often see the words “Change something about it!”, “Work on yourself!”, “Change yourself!” or similar. But they never actually get into the real question:

How?

How on earth am I supposed to work on myself??!!

And even if you ask these people who gave you this great tip of “Work on yourself!” seconds ago how you’re mean to do that, you won’t get a satisfying answer out of them. And therein lies the problem!

We as people often realise that we have to change something or change ourselves, but we just lack the tools to put that into action. And this is where the tools from NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) come in. These tools give you techniques to change your personality or your attitude and offer you new resources (abilities etc.) with which you can reach your goals.

Relation to me:

This is why I educate myself immensely in the area of NLP. Last year, I completed my NLP practitioner and this year I will complete my NLP master. I want my journey in this area to turn me into a certified NLP trainer and hypnotherapist. Because hypnosis also offers great possibilities for change processes and resource building. Furthermore, it is my plan to gain more abilities in the therapeutic area so that I may also call myself an alternative practitioner for psychotherapy.

Eventually, this is meant to enable me not only to be a great seduction artist, but also help you in becoming better!

Input from other seduction artists:

In everyday life I often encounter a shocking number of limited mindsets in this area. These often are: “I don’t need this!”, “I know how this works!”, “I don’t need help!”

I’m going to tell you a little secret:

Yes! You do need this!

And there’s nothing bad or embarrassing about that!

You wouldn’t an important maths exam thinking “I don’t need someone to explain the theory to me. I’ll just do it somehow and that’s that!” Of course, you can do it like that, but then you will most definitely fail the exam.

For us it is somehow completely normal that everything we know today was taught to us by someone else, but when it comes to women, it’s different. Then we apparently have to just know.

That is absolute nonsense. And I hope you realise that!

So take a damn look at how other successful guys talk to women. Watch videos, read blog posts, read books, talk to friends etc.! And in the end, you try these things out in your everyday life!

And yes, you will be so much better than all the other guys who don’t do that! 😉

 

Experience! Experience! Experience!

Another way to put it would be: Practice! Practice! Practice!

Go out and try everything out that you can think of. You read a really good pick-up line? Go on and try it out!

You read a really crap pick-up line? Go on and try it out!

Relation to me:

Back in the day, I did a so-called desensitisation training with a good friend of mine. There, we set ourselves really stupid and embarrassing tasks over and over again. We had to sing and dance on escalators and do embarrassing sports exercises in the middle of the high street and in the end, I had to go to a group of girls and tell them in a really downcast way that I was a bedwetter and ask them if that would be a problem for them in a relationship.

Embarrassing you say?

Funny I say! Even years later I still laugh about it every time I see this friend! And yes, with this method you will easily lose your fear of talking to people!

 

I’ll tell you another secret, but shh!

Women aren’t all that different. What works with one woman will very probably also work with any other. Once you get the hang of it you only need to do the same thing over and over again. Oh, it can all be so easy! 😀

But until then it’s practice! Practice! Practice! Until you have a real wealth of experience. Then you will have a tried and tested reaction for any and every situation.

 

Read body language:

Learn to read your counterpart’s body language. Because 55% of our impression on others works via body language. Therefore, you must learn to control yourself and to play with it and also how to properly read it in your targets. For this you could, for example, read a few books on the topic and then keep watching other people’s body language in your everyday life.

Dancing:

Let’s get to my biggest weakness – dancing.

Yes, dancing is important. The places where women like to be are often places where you dance. Women really enjoy dancing and dancing is a kind of courtship behaviour for women (similar to the animal kingdom) to present themselves and thereby attract males.

Therefore it is highly beneficial if you can dance well, especially as it makes you more flexible when seducing someone, as you can, for example, take the girl for a dance after talking to her to get to know her better.

But: dancing isn’t as important as most people think! As I said, most seducers are excellent talkers and not necessarily excellent dancers.

Here is where I see a lot of room for improvement in myself!

Filming and editing videos:

This is only important for those who want to make it their job to be a seduction artist. It is imperative to create good videos for YouTube for example, so your “students” have good learning materials that show things in practice at hand.

Learning this is one of the next important points on my agenda!

 

An important factor so you can call yourself a seduction artist in the end is of course that you’re successful with women.

But what does success with women even look like? For some, simply overcoming the fear of talking to someone is a success, while others think that having sex with a beautiful woman isn’t a success because they wanted a different woman.

You see, the term success is very subjective and therefore hard to grasp. If you take my definition, however, then you can call yourself a seduction artist from the moment you start having the constant urge to improve yourself.

The word improve implies that you actually get better. So, you have to constantly get better until you’re able to give women a good feeling and women seek your presence on their own without help. In the end, the aim is to be in a position where you don’t just have to marry the one woman who’s interested in you (I often feel like that’s how it works with many other men), but that you can choose the one woman where you think that she’s the one. And this is where my teachings go further than those of other “seduction artists”, because with this one woman you should, if you so desire, be able to live out a life-long, happy relationship.

And here, the circle of “arsehole fuckboy”, as seduction artists are often seen as, closes towards a romantic, who has only been preparing himself his whole life for the one woman, the woman of his dreams.

 

Becoming a good seduction artist isn’t easy, and you need a multitude of resources. Money, the right personality, a large amount of knowledge/education and finally of course the actual “success” are necessary. Thankfully, most of these components are something you can learn or otherwise obtain. Financially, you are free to invest in your education/financial education and to be diligent, so that you can increase your earnings. Knowledge and education are something that you can gather from this blog or my social media, for example. And certain personality traits can also be worked on through NLP/hypnosis techniques (not to mention that you must already have quite a few of them if you’ve read this article up to here.)

Now, all that’s missing is the success with women. And the only person responsible for that is yourself. I can give you all the tools and information that you need to head your way. But you have to go that way alone.

Welcome to my blog “road to seduction.”